Episode 64: What is the Biblical definition of lust? How do we know when we’ve crossed the line? Part 2

Episode highlights:  Lust can take place regardless of what we do with our eyes. We should keep our heart and mind focused on the Word.  Prov 6:20-24 We should enjoy the godly sexuality that God has provided. Prov 5:20-23; 1 Cor 7 We should run from the ungodly sexuality the world/devil is pushing. Prov 6:25;Continue reading “Episode 64: What is the Biblical definition of lust? How do we know when we’ve crossed the line? Part 2”

Episode 63: What is the Biblical definition of lust? How do we know when we’ve crossed the line? Part 1

Episode highlights:  Sexual desire is not inherently evil. The only appropriate place to entertain sexual desire is within the confines of a marriage of a man and a woman. Lust is entertaining illicit sexual desire for someone.

Episode 62: Does It REALLY Mean That? Matthew 7:1 – “Judge not, that you be not judged.”

Episode highlights: The typical application of this verse is that you should never call somebody out on their sin. The context indicates that Jesus is forbidding hypocritical condemnation, NOT confrontation of any sin of any sort.  Matt 7:5 actually encourages us to help one another with sin. There are a plethora of cross-references indicating thatContinue reading “Episode 62: Does It REALLY Mean That? Matthew 7:1 – “Judge not, that you be not judged.””

Episode 61: Our close family members are a mix of unbelievers and then believers with poor doctrine (not heretical). Should we vocalize to our child the wrong thinking they’ve adopted beforehand or respond to those things as she encounters them?

Episode highlights: Focus first on positive instruction. Eph 6:4 In your positive instruction about the Bible, warn about the real danger of error. Deal generally and secondarily with aberrant belief systems. Warning children ahead of time about specific family members may create an “us-vs-them” situation in the children’s minds. Warning children ahead of time aboutContinue reading “Episode 61: Our close family members are a mix of unbelievers and then believers with poor doctrine (not heretical). Should we vocalize to our child the wrong thinking they’ve adopted beforehand or respond to those things as she encounters them?”

Episode 60: I’ve recently befriended an unbeliever. As I develop a relationship with her, how should I talk with her about spiritual things? Do I come right out and share the gospel or is there a better approach?

Episode highlights: Seek to grow in your affection for Jesus so that spiritual conversation is normal for you.   Beware of “relationship evangelism” that is all relationship and no evangelism.  Matt 5:13-16 Ask good questions and listen to the answers.  (Do you have any spiritual beliefs?  To you, who is Jesus?  Do you think thereContinue reading “Episode 60: I’ve recently befriended an unbeliever. As I develop a relationship with her, how should I talk with her about spiritual things? Do I come right out and share the gospel or is there a better approach?”

Episode 59: My spouse and I want to have sex with greater frequency, but there are obstacles – small children, different schedules… What would you suggest?

Episode highlights: Identify all the factors making it difficult to come together regularly. Agree together that its a priority. Gen 2:24; 1 Cor 7:2-5 Make time for your relationship in general. 1 Peter 3:7 Think outside the box. Communicate, communicate, communicate.

Episode 58: Is it wrong for a Christian to consume alcohol?

Episode highlights: It is unequivocally sinful to get drunk.  Eph 5:18; 1 Cor 5:11 On issues of Christian liberty, we should be guided by love for one another. John 13:34-35 The “stronger brother” should be careful with the conscience of the “weaker brother.” Rom 14; 1 Cor 8-9 Given the weaknesses of may people towardContinue reading “Episode 58: Is it wrong for a Christian to consume alcohol?”

Episode 57: How would you address a friend who is no longer attracted to their husband/wife physically and is finding it to be a barrier to sexual intimacy?

Episode highlights: Ask a lot of questions. Prov 18:13 This is very likely a symptom of a deeper issue. Encourage them to identify other issues in the marriage and talk to their spouse about those issues. Encourage them to get counseling.

Episode 56: My teenager wants to date. What counsel can you give regarding whether or when this is appropriate?

Episode highlights: This is a wisdom issue.  Therefore, there is plenty of room for disagreement. Whether a teen should date will depend upon the maturity of the teen. There may be value in training a teen in this area while they are still under your authority. Eph 6:4 Older, mature teens who care about godlinessContinue reading “Episode 56: My teenager wants to date. What counsel can you give regarding whether or when this is appropriate?”

Episode 55: I have been sinned against by a friend of mine in the church. I feel like I should confront the individual, but I’ve never done it before and I’m afraid. What is the best way to go about it?

Episode highlights: Seeking reconciliation is the responsibility of both parties. Matt 18:15-17; 5:23-24 Deal with your own heart first. Matt 7:3-5; Matt 12:17-21 Before making an accusation, ask questions to confirm that a sin was committed.  Prov 18:13, 17 Give a gentle admonition from Scripture.

Episode 54: How do I balance my needs/desires with the needs/desires of my spouse without one of us being selfish?

Episode highlights: It is not inherently selfish to want something; a desire becomes selfish when I insist on it. 1 Cor 13:5 I should be more concerned about what the Lord commands me to do than what He commands others to do. Matt 7:3-5 God gives to both spouses unconditional commands to give.  Eph 5:22-25Continue reading “Episode 54: How do I balance my needs/desires with the needs/desires of my spouse without one of us being selfish?”

Episode 53: I would love to know why the Bible does not address what to do when there is abuse in a marriage. The Bible is clear that adultery is the only acceptable reason for divorce, but how would you counsel someone who is being abused in marriage?

Episode highlights: There are two biblical reasons for ending a marriage – sexual immorality and abandonment by an unbelieving spouse. Matt 19:9; 1 Cor 7:15 Just like dealing with any other sin, God does give us principles for dealing with abuse in marriage. In cases of physical abuse, God’s ordained authorities should be informed andContinue reading “Episode 53: I would love to know why the Bible does not address what to do when there is abuse in a marriage. The Bible is clear that adultery is the only acceptable reason for divorce, but how would you counsel someone who is being abused in marriage?”

Episode 52: My husband and I are dealing with infertility problems. The doctor wants a sample from my husband. What is a godly alternative to the sinful ways clinics typically acquire these samples?

Episode highlights: Masturbation is wrong because it violates God’s principles for sexuality. 1 Cor 7:3-4 The best course is to tell the doctor about your convictions and ask for alternatives. If the doctor will not allow other alternatives, find another doctor.

Episode 51: How should Christians view their responsibility to steward their body in regards to diet and nutrition?

Episode highlights: The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. 1 Cor 6:19-20 Gluttony is sin. (Pro 23:20; 28:7).  Being overweight is not. We should not push our conscience on others regarding specific food choices. (Col 2:16; Rom 14:3; 1 Tim 4:1-4) It is a profitable, virtuous thing to take care of one’s body.Continue reading “Episode 51: How should Christians view their responsibility to steward their body in regards to diet and nutrition?”

Episode 50: Is it OK for a Christian’s primary community of friends to be outside the church?

Episode highlights: We must have relationships outside the church.  Matt 28:18-20; 1 Cor 5:9-10; Matt 5:16 The believer’s primary community of friends should be the body of Christ. 2 Cor 6:14-18; 1 John 2:15-16, 5:19; Eph 4:18-19 If you already have a close community of unbelievers, be more and more overt with the gospel, whileContinue reading “Episode 50: Is it OK for a Christian’s primary community of friends to be outside the church?”

Episode 49: How would you counsel a husband who is married to a woman who was sexually abused and at times has a hard time with intimacy?

Episode highlights: God expects spouses to serve each other sexually. 1 Cor 7:2-5 God expects spouses to be patient with each other. Eph 4:1-2 God fixes broken things, so neither spouse should be satisfied with a broken sexual relationship.  Isa 147:3 The husband should strive to be patient with his wife. 1 Pet 3:7 TheContinue reading “Episode 49: How would you counsel a husband who is married to a woman who was sexually abused and at times has a hard time with intimacy?”

Episode 48: “I am a 14-year-old believer whose parents recently divorced. During one of my bi-weekly visits with my dad, he asked if he could introduce to me to his boyfriend. How do I respond to both my father and his partner? How am I to make sense of what has recently happened?”

Episode highlights: Your parents’ divorce is between them.  It is not a reflection on you. God has not abandoned you. Rom 8:26-39 You must love and honor your dad. Eph 6:1-2 You could ask your dad if a pastor could help the two of you work through things.

Episode 47: Can Christians (adult and child) play video games and still live in a manner that is consistent with the Gospel? Part 2

Episode highlights: There are some video games – those in which we pretend to be persons engaging in sexual immorality, extreme violence, or criminal activity – that cannot be helpful to anyone spiritually.  1 Cor 6:12, 10:23 If there is a game I can play without my affections for the Lord being challenged or myContinue reading “Episode 47: Can Christians (adult and child) play video games and still live in a manner that is consistent with the Gospel? Part 2”

Episode 46: Can Christians (adult and child) play video games and still live in a manner that is consistent with the Gospel? Part 1

Episode highlights: To live in a manner consistent with the gospel means to live a transformed life. Eph 4:1; Col 1:10; Phil 1:27; Titus 1:16 There is nothing inherently sinful about playing video games, just like there is nothing inherently sinful about playing card games or board games. When deciding what activities to enjoy, theContinue reading “Episode 46: Can Christians (adult and child) play video games and still live in a manner that is consistent with the Gospel? Part 1”