- It is not inherently selfish to want something; a desire becomes selfish when I insist on it. 1 Cor 13:5
- I should be more concerned about what the Lord commands me to do than what He commands others to do. Matt 7:3-5
- God gives to both spouses unconditional commands to give. Eph 5:22-25
- The commonly held meet-in-the-middle ethic for marriage is a recipe for disaster.
- Quality time is not a preference issue and should be pursued for the health of the marriage.