- As adults, we can honor our parents by speaking to them respectfully, thanking them for all they’ve done, taking care of them physically, and inviting them into our lives.
- When there appears to be a disagree about whether or not honoring equals obeying, it’s best to have an open, straightforward conversation about it.
- If our parents still do not agree that we are required by Scripture to honor them while making our own decisions, we must continue to honor them, including by considering their counsel, even if unsolicited.
- We need to avoid the mistake of thinking that our parents must agree with us in order to have a relationship with us.
- If our children are not becoming less and less dependent upon us as they get older, we’re doing something wrong. The book of Proverbs assumes that independence is the goal toward which we raise children.
- When we have control issues and make our children the pawns of those issues, it is beyond cruel. We’re setting them up to fail when they are grown and need to be able to make independent decisions.
- Failing to prepare our children for adulthood sets them up for problems in their future marriages and harms them spiritually.
- To honor one’s parents is to treat them with great respect, and it is a lifelong obligation.
- Obeying and honoring are not the same thing. All children, young and old, are to honor their parents.
- According to Genesis 2, adult children who are married do not continue to live under the authority of their parents so that they still obey their parents.
- The context of Ephesians 6:1-4 indicates that it is the normal course of life for children to become adults and eventually no longer live under their authority and protection. This would include adult children who are not married.
- The age at which a child reaches adulthood is not explicitly covered in Scripture. It’s largely cultural. At any rate, parents should be eager to prepare their children to live on their own as responsible adults.
- The exclusivity of Christ refers to the truth that Christ alone is the way to salvation.
- In order to be saved, one must consciously, intentionally, specifically trust in Christ alone to save them from their sins.
- This is essential to teach our children not only because it is foundational to the biblical gospel, but because it is constantly under attack in our culture. Our children WILL eventually be confronted by those who challenge them on this.
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- Gospel bulletpoints:
- God is holy. Lev 19:2; 1 Pet 1:15-16
- Man is sinful. Rom 3:10-18
- God is wrathful. Rom 1:18
- Man is doomed. Matt 3:10
- God is gracious. Titus 2:11
- Christ was given. John 3:16; 2 Cor 5:21
- Man is redeemed. Acts 3:19; John 3:16
- It’s crucial that our children understand what substitutionary atonement is. It is essential to the gospel; without it we cannot be saved. Heb 9:22.
- In teaching the gospel, we should avoid mistakes like “easy believism,” confusion about the nature of baptism, and the notion that Christ is one of many ways to salvation.
- In teaching our children, we should major on God’s attributes of goodness: mercy, grace, patience, and love. Exodus 34:6
- Teaching our kids about God’s sovereignty enables them to understand other doctrines rightly and view God rightly. It also prepares them to handle the inevitable storms that will come into their lives as adults.
- We can use family worship as a tool to teach our kids about God when we read the Bible understanding that it is His self-revelation. We should look for and highlight what each passage/story teaches about the character of God.
- Occasions of fear and difficulty are great opportunities to teach them about God’s attributes, especially His omnipotence, wisdom, goodness, and love.