Episode 36: My teenager has crossed some sexual boundaries with a boyfriend/girlfriend – what should I do?

Episode highlights:

  • Observe the biblical principle of radical amputation and end the relationship. Matt 5:27-30; 2 Tim 2:22
  • Shepherd them through why ending the relationship is necessary.
  • Put the gospel in front of them. Assure them that because of the cross, God forgives sin.  However, as a loving Father, God still allows us to feel the temporal consequences of our sin. Heb 12:3-11
  • Explain that ending the relationship is not primarily about punishing them but about protecting them from further sin and from making shipwreck of their faith. 1 Tim 1:18-19

Episode 35: Should believing parents allow their children to consider their homosexual aunt’s “husband/wife” to be their aunt/uncle?

Episode highlights:

  • Because marriage is a picture of the gospel, we cannot legitimize a sinful union by calling unmarried people “married.”
  • We also cannot confuse our children by teaching them one thing at home and another thing in extended family contexts.
  • To do otherwise is to miss an opportunity to share the gospel.
  • We must have a loving conversation with these family members, use the issue to share the gospel, then go out of our way to demonstrate genuine love to all involved.

Episode 34: How would you counsel a God-fearing husband and father in his search for work/life balance?

Episode highlights:

  • We need to differentiate between explicit biblical callings and “inferred callings.”
  • We need to prioritize explicit biblical calls over inferred calls. 2 Pet 1:19
  • We need to understand that there is a difference between working hard and allowing ambition to drive us to be unfaithful in areas of explicit biblical responsibility.

Episode 33: Is it okay to warn other people online about a particular business establishment or vendor?

Episode highlights:

  • There is nothing wrong with holding a business up to their end of the deal.
  • Believers are supposed to be champions of justice and truth. Isa 61:8; Mic 6:8
  • A few caveats:
    • Make sure you’ve given them every opportunity to make it right. Phil 4:5
    • Make sure your heart is right. Prov 4:23; Rom 12:19
    • Make sure you don’t have ulterior motives.
    • Make sure your words are godly. Eph 4:29

Episode 32: My spouse is struggling with a sexual sin. Is it wrong for me to not want to be the main source of accountability?

Episode highlights:

  • Accountability for sexual sin needs to be frequent and detailed.
  • Relapses, particularly for lust/pornography are not unusual.
  • The spouse of someone struggling with sin almost always has his or her own issues to work through as a result.
  • Taken together, these things indicate it’s not wise for the offended spouse to be the main source of accountability.

Episode 31: How can I encourage my husband to reach out to other men for help/encouragement?

Episode highlights:

  • Having an upfront conversation with your husband about this doesn’t indicate a lack of submission.  You’re obeying a one another command (1 Th 5:14).
  • It is a godly and loving thing for a wife to share with her husband what the Bible says about the necessity of Christian friendship (Heb 10:24-25).
  • It is a godly and loving thing for a wife to share with her husband how his lack of care for his own spiritual wellbeing is affecting her and the home.

Episode 30: My spouse is extremely jealous to the point that he/she doesn’t want me to interact at all with people of the opposite sex. What should I do?

Episode highlights:

  • Key biblical principles:
    • God is a jealous God (Exo 20:4-5)
    • The Bible calls us to have relationships with other brothers and sisters in the Church (Eph 4:7-16; Heb 10:24-25)
  • The jealous spouse should understand that while there is such a thing as godly jealousy, there is also ungodly jealousy.  It is wrong to prevent your spouse from having godly relationships with other believers.
  • The other spouse should consider whether or not he or she is doing anything to inflame jealousy in the husband/wife.