Episode 57: How would you address a friend who is no longer attracted to their husband/wife physically and is finding it to be a barrier to sexual intimacy?

Episode highlights:

  • Ask a lot of questions. Prov 18:13
  • This is very likely a symptom of a deeper issue.
  • Encourage them to identify other issues in the marriage and talk to their spouse about those issues.
  • Encourage them to get counseling.

Episode 56: My teenager wants to date. What counsel can you give regarding whether or when this is appropriate?

Episode highlights:

  • This is a wisdom issue.  Therefore, there is plenty of room for disagreement.
  • Whether a teen should date will depend upon the maturity of the teen.
  • There may be value in training a teen in this area while they are still under your authority. Eph 6:4
  • Older, mature teens who care about godliness could be allowed to date with close supervision and clear guidelines.

Episode 55: I have been sinned against by a friend of mine in the church. I feel like I should confront the individual, but I’ve never done it before and I’m afraid. What is the best way to go about it?

Episode highlights:

  • Seeking reconciliation is the responsibility of both parties. Matt 18:15-17; 5:23-24
  • Deal with your own heart first. Matt 7:3-5; Matt 12:17-21
  • Before making an accusation, ask questions to confirm that a sin was committed.  Prov 18:13, 17
  • Give a gentle admonition from Scripture.

Episode 54: How do I balance my needs/desires with the needs/desires of my spouse without one of us being selfish?

Episode highlights:

  • It is not inherently selfish to want something; a desire becomes selfish when I insist on it. 1 Cor 13:5
  • I should be more concerned about what the Lord commands me to do than what He commands others to do. Matt 7:3-5
  • God gives to both spouses unconditional commands to give.  Eph 5:22-25
  • The commonly held meet-in-the-middle ethic for marriage is a recipe for disaster.
  • Quality time is not a preference issue and should be pursued for the health of the marriage.

Episode 53: I would love to know why the Bible does not address what to do when there is abuse in a marriage. The Bible is clear that adultery is the only acceptable reason for divorce, but how would you counsel someone who is being abused in marriage?

Episode highlights:

  • There are two biblical reasons for ending a marriage – sexual immorality and abandonment by an unbelieving spouse. Matt 19:9; 1 Cor 7:15
  • Just like dealing with any other sin, God does give us principles for dealing with abuse in marriage.
  • In cases of physical abuse, God’s ordained authorities should be informed and involved.  Matt 18:15-17; Rom 13:1-5
  • Though Scripture does not allow for divorce in cases of abuse, separation is consistent with God’s care for the defenseless.

Episode 52: My husband and I are dealing with infertility problems. The doctor wants a sample from my husband. What is a godly alternative to the sinful ways clinics typically acquire these samples?

Episode highlights:

  • Masturbation is wrong because it violates God’s principles for sexuality. 1 Cor 7:3-4
  • The best course is to tell the doctor about your convictions and ask for alternatives.
  • If the doctor will not allow other alternatives, find another doctor.

Episode 51: How should Christians view their responsibility to steward their body in regards to diet and nutrition?

Episode highlights:

  • The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. 1 Cor 6:19-20
  • Gluttony is sin. (Pro 23:20; 28:7).  Being overweight is not.
  • We should not push our conscience on others regarding specific food choices. (Col 2:16; Rom 14:3; 1 Tim 4:1-4)
  • It is a profitable, virtuous thing to take care of one’s body. (1 Tim 4:8; Prov 31:17) However, it is difficult to define for ourselves or others what it means to be “fit.”  It should be left to the individual conscience.