Episode 62: Does It REALLY Mean That? Matthew 7:1 – “Judge not, that you be not judged.”

Episode highlights:

  • The typical application of this verse is that you should never call somebody out on their sin.
  • The context indicates that Jesus is forbidding hypocritical condemnation, NOT confrontation of any sin of any sort. 
  • Matt 7:5 actually encourages us to help one another with sin.
  • There are a plethora of cross-references indicating that we should lovingly confront sin in other believers.  Matt 18:15-17; Luke 17:3b; 2 Thess 3:14-15; 1 Cor 5:12
  • Bottomline application: in your confrontation, be like Jesus, not like the Pharisees.

Episode 61: Our close family members are a mix of unbelievers and then believers with poor doctrine (not heretical). Should we vocalize to our child the wrong thinking they’ve adopted beforehand or respond to those things as she encounters them?

Episode highlights:

  • Focus first on positive instruction. Eph 6:4
  • In your positive instruction about the Bible, warn about the real danger of error.
  • Deal generally and secondarily with aberrant belief systems.
  • Warning children ahead of time about specific family members may create an “us-vs-them” situation in the children’s minds.
  • Warning children ahead of time about specific family members may inadvertently teach them to make assumptions about people. 

Episode 60: I’ve recently befriended an unbeliever. As I develop a relationship with her, how should I talk with her about spiritual things? Do I come right out and share the gospel or is there a better approach?

Episode highlights:

  • Seek to grow in your affection for Jesus so that spiritual conversation is normal for you.  
  • Beware of “relationship evangelism” that is all relationship and no evangelism.  Matt 5:13-16
  • Ask good questions and listen to the answers.  (Do you have any spiritual beliefs?  To you, who is Jesus?  Do you think there is a heaven or a hell?  If you died tonight, where would you go?  If what you were believing was not true, would you want someone to tell you?)
  • Ask if they would read the Gospel of Mark with you.  (One to One Bible Reading, David Helm)
  • Invite them to church.
  • Be the best and most caring friend they have.

Episode 59: My spouse and I want to have sex with greater frequency, but there are obstacles – small children, different schedules… What would you suggest?

Episode highlights:

  • Identify all the factors making it difficult to come together regularly.
  • Agree together that its a priority. Gen 2:24; 1 Cor 7:2-5
  • Make time for your relationship in general. 1 Peter 3:7
  • Think outside the box.
  • Communicate, communicate, communicate.

Episode 58: Is it wrong for a Christian to consume alcohol?

Episode highlights:

  • It is unequivocally sinful to get drunk.  Eph 5:18; 1 Cor 5:11
  • On issues of Christian liberty, we should be guided by love for one another. John 13:34-35
  • The “stronger brother” should be careful with the conscience of the “weaker brother.” Rom 14; 1 Cor 8-9
  • Given the weaknesses of may people toward alcohol addiction, it is wise to be very guarded about where and when we consume alcohol.
  • We should not pass judgment on those who enjoy Christian liberties. Rom 14:3

Episode 57: How would you address a friend who is no longer attracted to their husband/wife physically and is finding it to be a barrier to sexual intimacy?

Episode highlights:

  • Ask a lot of questions. Prov 18:13
  • This is very likely a symptom of a deeper issue.
  • Encourage them to identify other issues in the marriage and talk to their spouse about those issues.
  • Encourage them to get counseling.

Episode 56: My teenager wants to date. What counsel can you give regarding whether or when this is appropriate?

Episode highlights:

  • This is a wisdom issue.  Therefore, there is plenty of room for disagreement.
  • Whether a teen should date will depend upon the maturity of the teen.
  • There may be value in training a teen in this area while they are still under your authority. Eph 6:4
  • Older, mature teens who care about godliness could be allowed to date with close supervision and clear guidelines.