Episode 16: As an adult, how do I honor my parents who expect me to heed their authority the way I did when I was a child?

Episode highlights:

  • Obeying and honoring are not the same thing. All children, young and old, are to honor their parents.
  • According to Genesis 2, adult children who are married do not continue to live under the authority of their parents so that they still obey their parents.
  • The context of Ephesians 6:1-4 indicates that it is the normal course of life for children to become adults and eventually no longer live under their authority and protection. This would include adult children who are not married.
  • The age at which a child reaches adulthood is not explicitly covered in Scripture. It’s largely cultural. At any rate, parents should be eager to prepare their children to live on their own as responsible adults.

Episode 15: Are there specific doctrines I should teach my children before they leave home? If so, what are they? (Part 6 – The Exclusivity of Christ)

Episode Highlights:

  • The exclusivity of Christ refers to the truth that Christ alone is the way to salvation.
  • In order to be saved, one must consciously, intentionally, specifically trust in Christ alone to save them from their sins.
  • This is essential to teach our children not only because it is foundational to the biblical gospel, but because it is constantly under attack in our culture. Our children WILL eventually be confronted by those who challenge them on this.
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Episode 14: Are there specific doctrines I should teach my children before they leave home? If so, what are they? (Part 5 – The Gospel)

Episode highlights:

  • Gospel bulletpoints:
    • God is holy. Lev 19:2; 1 Pet 1:15-16
    • Man is sinful. Rom 3:10-18
    • God is wrathful. Rom 1:18
    • Man is doomed. Matt 3:10
    • God is gracious. Titus 2:11
    • Christ was given. John 3:16; 2 Cor 5:21
    • Man is redeemed. Acts 3:19; John 3:16
  • It’s crucial that our children understand what substitutionary atonement is. It is essential to the gospel; without it we cannot be saved. Heb 9:22.
  • In teaching the gospel, we should avoid mistakes like “easy believism,” confusion about the nature of baptism, and the notion that Christ is one of many ways to salvation.

Episode 13: Are there specific doctrines I should teach my children before they leave home? If so, what are they? (Part 4 – Doctrine of God, cont’d.)

Episode Highlights

  • In teaching our children, we should major on God’s attributes of goodness: mercy, grace, patience, and love. Exodus 34:6
  • Teaching our kids about God’s sovereignty enables them to understand other doctrines rightly and view God rightly. It also prepares them to handle the inevitable storms that will come into their lives as adults.
  • We can use family worship as a tool to teach our kids about God when we read the Bible understanding that it is His self-revelation. We should look for and highlight what each passage/story teaches about the character of God.
  • Occasions of fear and difficulty are great opportunities to teach them about God’s attributes, especially His omnipotence, wisdom, goodness, and love.

Episode 12: Are there specific doctrines I should teach my children before they leave home? If so, what are they? (Part 3 – Doctrine of God)

Episode highlights:

  • It’s essential to get the doctrine of God right because every other doctrine flows from it.
  • The Trinity is a major distinction between the God of the Bible and the god of false religions. Having a rudimentary grasp of it is important for understanding the gospel rightly.
  • Some divine attributes on which to focus with our kids:
    • Self-sufficiency – He needs nothing. Psalm 50:12; Acts 17:24-25
    • Immutability – He never changes. Mal 3:6
    • The Omnis (omnipresent, omniscient, omnisapient, omnipotent)
    • Holiness (righteousness, justice, wrath) – Lev 19:2

Episode 11: Are there specific doctrines I should teach my children before they leave home? If so, what are they? (Part 2 – Doctrine of the Word)

Episode highlights:

  • Scripture is perspicuous, that is, it is clear and can be understood.
  • To the charge of circular reasoning – using the Scriptures to ground the authority of the Scriptures – we say that any search for truth must terminate in a final objective source of that truth, which is the Bible.
  • Good resources for learning and teaching these truths to our kids are Wayne Grudem’s Systematic Theology and Bible Doctrine and Bruce Ware’s Big Truths for Young Hearts.
  • We can implicitly teach our children about the nature of Scripture by how we revere, handle, and obey it ourselves.

Episode 10: Are there specific doctrines I should teach my children before they leave home? If so, what are they? (Doctrine of the Word)

Episode Highlights:

  • The Doctrine of the Bible is an essential doctrine to impart to our children in that it gives them a foundation for believing the right things about everything else.
  • Scripture is inspired by God, that is, every word is the word that He wanted written. (2 Tim 3:16-17)
  • Scripture is inerrant, that is, the Bible is true (Psa 18:30; 119:151). A great resource for understanding inerrancy is the Chicago Statement on Biblical Inerrancy.
  • Scripture is authoritative, that is, it rightfully commands our obedience.

Episode 9: How can I encourage my kids to have their own personal quiet time?

Episode Highlights:

Remember that spiritual interest is a function of God’s grace. Ultimately, we can’t manufacture it in our kids.

Beware of the dangers of making your kids have a quiet time or of providing incentives for it.

One of the best ways to encourage them to spend time with the Lord is to model it. (1 Cor 11:1; Phil 3:17, 4:9)

Be sure to present the quiet time as an avenue for a relationship to be enjoyed, not a task to be done.

Episode 8: The Lord has put a person in my life that I’m having a hard time loving. What should I do?

Episode highlights:

  • Consider that difficulty loving someone suggests not so much that something is wrong with them, but that something is wrong with you.
  • Remember that the Lord saved us all when we were dead and rebellious, changing us and enabling us to walk in obedience. Eph 4:1-2
  • Our ability to love our brothers and sisters is a sign that we belong to Him. John 13:15
  • Remember that the gospel has united us together and love is necessary for maintaining our unity. Eph 4:3-6
  • Make it a priority to pray for and do good for that person.

Episode 7: How can I discipline my toddler toward the gospel?

Episode highlights:

  • Obeying for the glory of God is something that only the regenerate can do.
  • Toddlers have Gen 6:5 hearts – they’re not able to obey for the glory of God.
  • Jesus and the apostles put the fear of discipline in front of us as a godly motive for obedience. (Matt 5:29-30; Rom 13:1-4)
  • Teaching your children to “fear the sword” is a valuable gospel tool. Prov 23:13-14

Episode 6: Where should I draw the line regarding the kinds of movies I let my family watch?

This episode’s highlights include:

  • When deciding where to draw the line, don’t violate your conscience.
  • Assume that any secular movie proceeds from an ungodly worldview.
  • Regarding sexual content, we should broaden our concern to include not just depictions of homosexuality, but any sexual sin.
  • Whatever you let your family watch, don’t let them watch it without your Christian worldview commentary.
  • We need to create the habit of using the culture’s message as a springboard for conversation about our biblical worldview.
  • A great resource for discovering the exact content of any movie ahead of time is www.kids-in-mind.com.

Episode 5: I’m married, but attracted to someone at work – what should I do? (Part 2)

  • The Bible calls us to put off ungodliness and put on godliness.
  • In this situation, “putting off” is fleeing the situation (2 Tim 2:22); “putting on” is pursuing righteousness with other believers.
  • If you have to interact at work, keep it strictly professional. If you can’t keep it strictly professional, do something drastic, like getting a new job (Matt 5:29-30).
  • There is no action too drastic to prevent the destruction of your testimony and marriage.
  • “Pursuing righteousness with others” at the very least means telling someone that you trust and asking them for help.
  • Under no circumstances should you tell the person you are attracted to.
  • A great, godly protection for any marriage is to cultivate deeper intimacy with your spouse in every area of your marriage.

Episode 4: I’m married, but attracted to someone at work – what should I do?

Episode highlights:

  • Whether the temptation is found at work, the neighborhood, or wherever, the prescription for dealing with it will be the same.
  • When we recognize the temptation, we must get into the Scriptures. Proverbs 5-7 is particularly helpful for this situation.
  • Getting into the Scriptures reorients our hearts and minds toward the Lord.
  • We should bring the Scriptures to bear by associating that other person with the “forbidden woman” of Proverbs 5-7.
  • We must not minimize the danger by telling ourselves, “I’d never do anything.” Now is the time to recognize the seriousness of the danger and to act against it.