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- A person has genuinely forgiven the moment they make the promise not to use the offender’s sin against them.
- When a person seems like they “haven’t truly forgiven,” it is usually that they are still struggling with the pain of the sin committed against them.
- The forgiver can begin to deal with the pain of betrayal by soaking in and personalizing gospel truth.
- The offender should give the other person time and space to heal.
- Therapeutic forgivness tends to focus on the forgiver, while biblical forgiveness tends to be others-centered, motivated by love for neighbor and God, focused on reconciliation.
- Forgiveness is a matter of obedience, not feelings. Luke 17:3-4
- We are to forgive as soon as repentance has been made.
- God expects us to forgive the way He forgives. Eph 4:32
- Our forgiveness should be a gracious, conditional promise not to hold others’ sins against them. Rom 4:7-8; Jer 31:34; Eph 2:8-9; 1 John 1:9; Luke 17:3
- Forgiveness and dealing with the pain of betrayal are two separate things.
- God’s blessing depends upon if we’ve confessed the sin. Psa 32:3-4
- God’s blessing depends upon if we’ve repented of the sin. Acts 2:38; Luke 17:3; 2 Cor 7:10-11
- God delights to take broken things and make them whole. Rev 21:5; 2 Cor 5:17; 1 Cor 6:9-11
- When we’re bored we should follow Jesus’ example by being about the Father’s work. John 4:32-35
- Jesus found satisfaction in doing the work that the Father gave Him to do. He enjoyed the Father in this way. John 15:9-10
- When we are bored, we should read the Word, pray, and partake in Christian fellowship.
- Boredom, more times than not, is dangerous. 2 Sam 11:1-5
- Boredom is frequently a result of laziness or not doing what we ought to do. Prov 6:6, 9-11; 1 Tim 5:11-13
- Boredom is not inherently sinful, but is like a warning that makes you stop, think, and be cautious.
- There are no exceptions to the truth that we need meaningful relationships in our lives.
- It’s not possible to enjoy the benefits of the church to our sanctification without having some close relationships.
- Those who struggle with same-sex attraction should ask pastors for help to find a group of two or three others to meet with regularly, rather than a one-on-one relationship.
- Meeting with the opposite sex is counter-productive.