Episode 157: What are some of the signs I’m harboring bitterness? What can I do about it?

Episode highlights: – Eph 4:26-5:2 is a helpful guide. – What is your disposition toward the person? If there is not actual anger, do you struggle with your thoughts–re-living the offense? Eph 4:26 – How do you talk about the person to others and in your own mind? Eph 4:29 – Do you have aContinue reading “Episode 157: What are some of the signs I’m harboring bitterness? What can I do about it?”

Episode 156: “So I Don’t Have to Forgive…?”

Episode Highlights: – That an offender has not repented does not give a victim the right to hold a grudge, prolong their anger, or hold the person at arms-length. – Eph 4:26 is a command to be poised to forgive very quickly after the offense. – If we have obeyed Eph 4:26, our attitude towardContinue reading “Episode 156: “So I Don’t Have to Forgive…?””

Episode 155: Should I apologize for hurting a person’s feelings with truth?

Episode Highlights – We should not ask for forgiveness if we do not believe we have sinned. – We should take ample time to consider both the message and manner in which we delivered it. If either were inappropriate, we should ask forgiveness. – If after considering their hurt we still don’t believe we’ve sinned,Continue reading “Episode 155: Should I apologize for hurting a person’s feelings with truth?”

Episode 154: How should Christians observe a Sabbath rest?

Episode Highlights: – The Sabbath rest of the Christian is the new heaven and new earth earned by Christ, and theirs in Christ. – Hebrews 4:9 comes in a section spanning from 3:1-4:11. This context is crucial for understanding the one verse. – Hebrews 4:9 does not speak of a literal Sabbath rest for Christians,Continue reading “Episode 154: How should Christians observe a Sabbath rest?”

Episode 153: How do we tell the difference between error and heresy?

Episode Highlights – Three questions help us decipher heresy from error: Does it compromise the gospel? Does it compromise Christology? Does it compromise the nature of God? – We should be reasonably patient with new believers as they are corrected on matters of orthodoxy. – On differences that do not rise to the level ofContinue reading “Episode 153: How do we tell the difference between error and heresy?”

Episode 152: We disagree about discipling our kids…what should we do?

Episode Highlights: – The Bible gives us clear instruction on how to discipline our children. – The Bible prescribes loving corporal punishment as the norm for disciplining children (Pro 13:24; 22:15; 23:13-14; Heb 12:6-11) – We should incorporate loving corporal punishment without provoking our children to anger (Eph 6:4).

Episode 151: Does it really mean that? Rev 3:20

– Again, the place to start is the context, which in this case is the letter to Laodicea in Revelation 3:14-22. – The context indicates that the letter is written to believers who need to be called back to meaningful fellowship with Christ; therefore, this is not an evangelistic text. – There are plenty ofContinue reading “Episode 151: Does it really mean that? Rev 3:20”

Episode 150: How do I counsel my daughter who tends to be “boy-crazy”?

Episode Highlights: 1. This issue provides a wonderful opportunity for discipleship within the home. 2. There is a time to be “boy-crazy.” That time is within a God-honoring, heterosexual, monogamous marriage relationship. 3. The desire for an intimate relationship is a gift, but it is a means to enjoy Christ more and not an endContinue reading “Episode 150: How do I counsel my daughter who tends to be “boy-crazy”?”

Episode 149: How do I build trust after betrayal?

Episode Highlights: – Episodes 140-142 on forgiveness may also be helpful. – Trust may not be advisable, depending upon what we mean by trust. – The offended spouse should press into the bitterness issue by meditating on gospel themes. – Looking to the Lord for ultimate fulfillment will prepare you both to love well andContinue reading “Episode 149: How do I build trust after betrayal?”

Episode 147: Slow to listen, quick to speak?

Episode Highlights: – The admonition to be quick to hear and slow to speak comes from James 1:19-20. – Important principles pertaining to communication come from Proverbs 18:13, 17. We should be eager to have all the information we can get before seeking to resolve a situation. That means listening intently. – An important diagnosticContinue reading “Episode 147: Slow to listen, quick to speak?”

Episode 146: Should churches close for the virus?

Episode Highlights: – We should be gracious regarding others’ convictions. – Heb 10:24-25 regarding not neglecting the gathering of the saints, likely has in view those who for selfish or immature reasons do not engage in meaningful relationships with other believers. – We should not view government guidelines as anti-Christian persecution, but measures intended toContinue reading “Episode 146: Should churches close for the virus?”

Episode 145: Hand-raising in worship?

Episode Highlights: – The Bible both depicts and commands lifting our hands to the Lord in prayer and worship. (Psa 63:4; 134:2; 1 Tim 2:8) – Our discomfort with this expression of worship is likely more cultural than biblical. – Those who want to raise their hands should do so, unconcerned about any biblical expressionContinue reading “Episode 145: Hand-raising in worship?”

Episode 144: Does it matter how our bodies are treated when we die?

Episode Highlights – The Bible indicates that it is a blessing for one’s remains to be well cared for. (Gen 49:29, Exo 13:19) – The Bible indicates that it is a curse to have one’s remains dishonored in any way. (Jer 16:4; 1 Kings 21:19, 23) – The human body has been bestowed with dignityContinue reading “Episode 144: Does it matter how our bodies are treated when we die?”

Episode 143: What should do if I know that my friend’s child is involved in sinful activity?

Episode Highlights: – The Bible clearly teaches about the destructive power of sin (Rom 6:23; 1 Peter 2:11, 5:8) – NT passages giving instruction about how to help people in sin present a principle we might call “escalating confrontation.” (Matt 18:15-18; 1 Cor 5) – To not escalate the confrontation by bringing the parents intoContinue reading “Episode 143: What should do if I know that my friend’s child is involved in sinful activity?”

Episode 142: Taking up an offense? Part 3

Episode Highlights: – There is no biblical category for taking up an offense in the sense that the offender is required to ask my forgiveness for sinning against my friend or loved on. – There is nothing wrong with being angry/offended by another sinning against my loved one…as long as I obey Eph 4:26-27 andContinue reading “Episode 142: Taking up an offense? Part 3”

Episode 141: Taking up an offense? Part 2

Episode Highlights: – Forgiveness is not synonymous with putting away your anger and pain caused by another’s sin. Eph 4:26-27, 31-32 – Our anger/pain should be dealt with very quickly, whether the person has repented or not, whether there is reconciliation or not. Eph 4:26-27 – Biblical forgiveness is not a feeling, it is aContinue reading “Episode 141: Taking up an offense? Part 2”

Episode 140: Taking up an offense? Part 1

Episode Highlights: – Our forgiveness should be patterned after God’s. (Eph 4:32; Col 3:13) – Forgiveness should be gracious, but costly. (Rom 5:6-6; 1 John 4:10) – Forgiveness should be conditioned upon repentance. (1 John 1:9; John 17:3-4; Matt 18:15-17) – Forgiveness is a promise not to use another’s sin against them. (Rom 4:7-8; JerContinue reading “Episode 140: Taking up an offense? Part 1”

Episode 139: Should we give any credence to Enneagram personality tests?

Episode Highlights – Taking these tests can be harmless if they are not the basis for our identity or decision-making. – As a believer, my identity is in Christ. – As a believer, I am constantly changing by the power of the Holy Spirit. – The bible gives me moral-guidelines and wisdom principles for decision-makingContinue reading “Episode 139: Should we give any credence to Enneagram personality tests?”

Episode 138: A much needed book: Transforming Homosexuality

Episode Highlights – Sharing a much needed, gracious book for the church, Transforming Homosexuality: What The Bible Says About Sexual Orientiation And Change, by Denny Burk and Heath Lambert – It holds the biblical line while offering hope for change and the HOW of change. – Christians should not be content to condemn the sinContinue reading “Episode 138: A much needed book: Transforming Homosexuality”