– Believers are called to love and stand for justice (Psalm 9:7-8; Mic 6:8)
– Believers are called to spread and live the gospel (1 Thess 1:8)
– Believers are called to obey authority, understanding it is established by God (Rom 13, 1 Peter 2)
– Christians can protest as long as their demeanor and message do not compromise the gospel.
– Eph 4:26-5:2 is a helpful guide.
– What is your disposition toward the person? If there is not actual anger, do you struggle with your thoughts–re-living the offense? Eph 4:26
– How do you talk about the person to others and in your own mind? Eph 4:29
– Do you have a disposition of kindness toward them? Tenderheartedness? Eagerness to forgive? Eph 4:32
– A great antidote to bitterness is to spend MUCH time meditating of Jesus’ interactions with sinners in the Gospels.
– Pray for the offender, seek opportunities to do them good, and leave justice to God. Matt 5:44-45; Rom 12:19-21
– That an offender has not repented does not give a victim the right to hold a grudge, prolong their anger, or hold the person at arms-length.
– Eph 4:26 is a command to be poised to forgive very quickly after the offense.
– If we have obeyed Eph 4:26, our attitude toward the unrepentant will not be “I don’t have to forgive,” but “I don’t get to forgive.”
– We should not ask for forgiveness if we do not believe we have sinned.
– We should take ample time to consider both the message and manner in which we delivered it. If either were inappropriate, we should ask forgiveness.
– If after considering their hurt we still don’t believe we’ve sinned, we can prefer them by committing to be more mindful about how we speak to them in the future.
– The Sabbath rest of the Christian is the new heaven and new earth earned by Christ, and theirs in Christ.
– Hebrews 4:9 comes in a section spanning from 3:1-4:11. This context is crucial for understanding the one verse.
– Hebrews 4:9 does not speak of a literal Sabbath rest for Christians, but indicates that the Canaan land was not the ultimate rest God intended for his people; rather, it was the new heaven and earth.
– While there is no command for believers to observe a literal Sabbath, it is wise to be good stewards of our bodies by adequately resting.
– Three questions help us decipher heresy from error: Does it compromise the gospel? Does it compromise Christology? Does it compromise the nature of God?
– We should be reasonably patient with new believers as they are corrected on matters of orthodoxy.
– On differences that do not rise to the level of heresy, we should be gracious and patient.
– The Bible gives us clear instruction on how to discipline our children.
– The Bible prescribes loving corporal punishment as the norm for disciplining children (Pro 13:24; 22:15; 23:13-14; Heb 12:6-11)
– We should incorporate loving corporal punishment without provoking our children to anger (Eph 6:4).
– Again, the place to start is the context, which in this case is the letter to Laodicea in Revelation 3:14-22.
– The context indicates that the letter is written to believers who need to be called back to meaningful fellowship with Christ; therefore, this is not an evangelistic text.
– There are plenty of evangelistic texts we could use to press people to obey the gospel (Acts 2, 17; 2 Cor 5-6)
1. This issue provides a wonderful opportunity for discipleship within the home.
2. There is a time to be “boy-crazy.” That time is within a God-honoring, heterosexual, monogamous marriage relationship.
3. The desire for an intimate relationship is a gift, but it is a means to enjoy Christ more and not an end in itself.
4. A single person should be zealous for the things of God, namely how he/she can grow in the likeness of Jesus. (1 Corinthians 7:34)
5. We all must prioritize treasuring Christ above all else.
6. Biblical counseling may be necessary to address specific variables and receive individualized applications steps.
– Episodes 140-142 on forgiveness may also be helpful.
– Trust may not be advisable, depending upon what we mean by trust.
– The offended spouse should press into the bitterness issue by meditating on gospel themes.
– Looking to the Lord for ultimate fulfillment will prepare you both to love well and to deal with hurt.