– Believers are called to love and stand for justice (Psalm 9:7-8; Mic 6:8)
– Believers are called to spread and live the gospel (1 Thess 1:8)
– Believers are called to obey authority, understanding it is established by God (Rom 13, 1 Peter 2)
– Christians can protest as long as their demeanor and message do not compromise the gospel.
– Eph 4:26-5:2 is a helpful guide.
– What is your disposition toward the person? If there is not actual anger, do you struggle with your thoughts–re-living the offense? Eph 4:26
– How do you talk about the person to others and in your own mind? Eph 4:29
– Do you have a disposition of kindness toward them? Tenderheartedness? Eagerness to forgive? Eph 4:32
– A great antidote to bitterness is to spend MUCH time meditating of Jesus’ interactions with sinners in the Gospels.
– Pray for the offender, seek opportunities to do them good, and leave justice to God. Matt 5:44-45; Rom 12:19-21
– That an offender has not repented does not give a victim the right to hold a grudge, prolong their anger, or hold the person at arms-length.
– Eph 4:26 is a command to be poised to forgive very quickly after the offense.
– If we have obeyed Eph 4:26, our attitude toward the unrepentant will not be “I don’t have to forgive,” but “I don’t get to forgive.”
– We should not ask for forgiveness if we do not believe we have sinned.
– We should take ample time to consider both the message and manner in which we delivered it. If either were inappropriate, we should ask forgiveness.
– If after considering their hurt we still don’t believe we’ve sinned, we can prefer them by committing to be more mindful about how we speak to them in the future.
– The Sabbath rest of the Christian is the new heaven and new earth earned by Christ, and theirs in Christ.
– Hebrews 4:9 comes in a section spanning from 3:1-4:11. This context is crucial for understanding the one verse.
– Hebrews 4:9 does not speak of a literal Sabbath rest for Christians, but indicates that the Canaan land was not the ultimate rest God intended for his people; rather, it was the new heaven and earth.
– While there is no command for believers to observe a literal Sabbath, it is wise to be good stewards of our bodies by adequately resting.
– Three questions help us decipher heresy from error: Does it compromise the gospel? Does it compromise Christology? Does it compromise the nature of God?
– We should be reasonably patient with new believers as they are corrected on matters of orthodoxy.
– On differences that do not rise to the level of heresy, we should be gracious and patient.
– The Bible gives us clear instruction on how to discipline our children.
– The Bible prescribes loving corporal punishment as the norm for disciplining children (Pro 13:24; 22:15; 23:13-14; Heb 12:6-11)
– We should incorporate loving corporal punishment without provoking our children to anger (Eph 6:4).
– Again, the place to start is the context, which in this case is the letter to Laodicea in Revelation 3:14-22.
– The context indicates that the letter is written to believers who need to be called back to meaningful fellowship with Christ; therefore, this is not an evangelistic text.
– There are plenty of evangelistic texts we could use to press people to obey the gospel (Acts 2, 17; 2 Cor 5-6)
1. This issue provides a wonderful opportunity for discipleship within the home.
2. There is a time to be “boy-crazy.” That time is within a God-honoring, heterosexual, monogamous marriage relationship.
3. The desire for an intimate relationship is a gift, but it is a means to enjoy Christ more and not an end in itself.
4. A single person should be zealous for the things of God, namely how he/she can grow in the likeness of Jesus. (1 Corinthians 7:34)
5. We all must prioritize treasuring Christ above all else.
6. Biblical counseling may be necessary to address specific variables and receive individualized applications steps.
– Episodes 140-142 on forgiveness may also be helpful.
– Trust may not be advisable, depending upon what we mean by trust.
– The offended spouse should press into the bitterness issue by meditating on gospel themes.
– Looking to the Lord for ultimate fulfillment will prepare you both to love well and to deal with hurt.
– The admonition to be quick to hear and slow to speak comes from James 1:19-20.
– Important principles pertaining to communication come from Proverbs 18:13, 17. We should be eager to have all the information we can get before seeking to resolve a situation. That means listening intently.
– An important diagnostic question: What am I thinking about when the other person is talking–what they are saying or how I want to respond?
– Another important diagnostic question: How often am I persuaded by the other person’s perspective?
– We should be gracious regarding others’ convictions.
– Heb 10:24-25 regarding not neglecting the gathering of the saints, likely has in view those who for selfish or immature reasons do not engage in meaningful relationships with other believers.
– We should not view government guidelines as anti-Christian persecution, but measures intended to preserve life, which we should champion.
– Our consciences should not bother us as long as we are worshipping via livestream in our homes and engaging with one another for the purpose of encouragement and edification.
– Committed believers know this is temporary and can’t wait to get back to church.
– The Bible both depicts and commands lifting our hands to the Lord in prayer and worship. (Psa 63:4; 134:2; 1 Tim 2:8)
– Our discomfort with this expression of worship is likely more cultural than biblical.
– Those who want to raise their hands should do so, unconcerned about any biblical expression of worship being a distraction to others.
– We should all give grace to the consciences of others around us on this issue.
– The Bible indicates that it is a blessing for one’s remains to be well cared for. (Gen 49:29, Exo 13:19)
– The Bible indicates that it is a curse to have one’s remains dishonored in any way. (Jer 16:4; 1 Kings 21:19, 23)
– The human body has been bestowed with dignity by God. (2 Cor 5:4; Phil 3:21; 1 Cor 6:13)
– Historically, the burning of remains has been associated not with Christian practice, but with paganism.
– The Bible clearly teaches about the destructive power of sin (Rom 6:23; 1 Peter 2:11, 5:8)
– NT passages giving instruction about how to help people in sin present a principle we might call “escalating confrontation.” (Matt 18:15-18; 1 Cor 5)
– To not escalate the confrontation by bringing the parents into the circle would be unloving and would allow sin to continue to have its way with the child.
– There is no biblical category for taking up an offense in the sense that the offender is required to ask my forgiveness for sinning against my friend or loved on.
– There is nothing wrong with being angry/offended by another sinning against my loved one…as long as I obey Eph 4:26-27 and put that anger away in a timely manner.
– Our impulse as believers should be the pursuit of reconciliation (Matt 5:23-24; 18:15; Phil 4:2-3)
– Forgiveness is not synonymous with putting away your anger and pain caused by another’s sin. Eph 4:26-27, 31-32
– Our anger/pain should be dealt with very quickly, whether the person has repented or not, whether there is reconciliation or not. Eph 4:26-27
– Biblical forgiveness is not a feeling, it is a commitment, a promise.
– Biblical forgiveness is a matter of obedience. Luke 17:3-4
– Our forgiveness should be patterned after God’s. (Eph 4:32; Col 3:13)
– Forgiveness should be gracious, but costly. (Rom 5:6-6; 1 John 4:10)
– Forgiveness should be conditioned upon repentance. (1 John 1:9; John 17:3-4; Matt 18:15-17)
– Forgiveness is a promise not to use another’s sin against them. (Rom 4:7-8; Jer 31:34; Isa 43:25).
– Forgiveness is done with a view toward reconciliation. (2 Cor 5:17-18)
– Forgiveness may not remove all consequences. (2 Sam 12:1-23; Psalm 51)
– Taking these tests can be harmless if they are not the basis for our identity or decision-making.
– As a believer, my identity is in Christ.
– As a believer, I am constantly changing by the power of the Holy Spirit.
– The bible gives me moral-guidelines and wisdom principles for decision-making that are in-line with His priorities.